Negative and Positive Energies
Do you believe that:
• You have what it takes to succeed
• Opportunity, wealth and abundance are ‘out there’ and available to everyone – including you
• It’s up to you to be all you can be?
I reckon all the successful people I’ve ever met would say ‘yes’ to these questions. They have a positive energy about them that is inspiring, infectious and effective. It appears actually to attract to them the things they need and desire to succeed.
Without getting mystical, successful people often appear to operate out of the belief that we:
• Always have all that we need
• Always reap the fruits of our own actions
• Are always supplied with the materials and skills, and even the passion, for the task which we are destined to complete in life.
Why doesn’t it always seem that way to the rest of us? Perhaps because we:
• Focus on the limitations of people and situations, rather than their potential
• See difficulties in our lives as impediments, rather than as stepping stones to success
• Fail to be open to the opportunities that are presented to us.
I believe our thoughts, speech, and actions have positive and negative energy – that they attract or repel success! Think of a flower garden. The more weeds we allow to grow, the harder it is for the flowers to flourish and multiply – but the more flowers we plant, the less room there is for weeds. In the same way, if we allow old prejudices, fears, and negative thoughts to be ‘planted’ in our minds and lives, we are limiting our potential for creativity and positive outcomes.
Identify your state:
• Positive (seeing the best in people and situations) or negative (seeing the limitations in people and situations)
• Responsible (owning your own actions – and their results ) or blaming (attributing your successes – and failures – to external factors)
• Proactive (initiating actions and seizing opportunities) or reactive (waiting for external factors to decide your course).
The key points are these:
• A positive, responsible and proactive person will attract opportunity, abundance and success
• You can think and act more like a positive, responsible and proactive person.
If you’re on the negative side
Monitor your thinking. Catch yourself using negative words – even in your head – and change them. Rephrase them more positively. Argue with yourself if you have to. If you hear yourself using the word ‘failure’, correct yourself to ‘it’s a learning opportunity’, or a ‘great attempt.’ If you must use the word ‘can’t’ (as in ‘I can’t do this’) get into the habit of adding the word ‘yet.’ Be ruthless about this: you don’t want others to disrespect, limit or discourage you so why do it to yourself?
Try some positive affirmations. This may seem a little artificial at first, but it works. Formulate some short positive statements (you might find some in the questionnaire). ‘I have everything I need to succeed’ or ‘Today, I’m one day closer to my goals.’ Stick them on your fridge or computer, where you’ll see them. Repeat them to yourself first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Get into the habit of being your own best encourager.
Get together with positive people. If you know people who have the kind of optimism and self-belief we’ve been talking about then spend time around them and adopt some of their thought and speech patterns. Enjoy them. If you know people who are negative, hopeless and discouraging, you don’t have to avoid them – but you may not want to discuss your goals and dreams with them. Who needs downers and dampeners? If people do use negative language about you and your success, don’t take it on board, gently correct them as you would yourself.
Experiment with success! The tools and techniques covered in this program have worked for all kinds of people. Have a little faith. Do the work and give it a go. Experiencing success is a great way to get more positive about life!
If you’re on the blaming side
The bad news is that you need to take responsibility for your actions. You need to do the work and to take the initiative. You also need to own up to your mistakes in order to learn from them. Other people don’t owe you happiness, wealth, respect or success – you do.
The good news is that you reap what you sow, that is, you get the return on your investment and enjoy the fruits of your labors. Other people can’t take it away from you: it’s yours. The world offers everything you need for success but it’s up to you to grasp it boldly, use it wisely, and share it generously.
Monitor your thinking. As with negativity, it’s important to notice and challenge your blaming thoughts and words. Catch yourself saying, ‘I had to...’, ‘You made me...’, ‘They said I...’ These are all ways of saying, ‘I’m not making the decisions here.’ You are making the decisions here so start thinking like it!
Experiment with responsible action. Get used to doing what it takes to pursue your goals. For a start, do the activities in this workbook. No one else can do them for you. And no one else can hold you back. Your progress – and your success – is in your hands.
If you’re on the reactive side
The good news is that opportunities do just ‘come our way.’ The bad news is that if we’re not looking out for them, ready and willing to grab them with both hands and do something with them, then they tend to get away.
Motivate yourself. We’ll be dealing with this in later sessions, but be aware that that’s where you’ll need to pay attention. Take the business of goal setting, visualization and goal affirmation seriously. Work at it. Make a commitment. It’s the only way to focus your mind on what you want to achieve so you’ll go out looking for it, and know it when you’ve found it.
Experiment with proactivity. Again, get used to doing what it takes to pursue your goals. Do the activities in this workbook and even try to do a bit extra. Ensure that you follow up and push forward. Be alert to any tendency or desire you have to ‘wait for something to happen.’ The thing that has to happen is you.
Until one is committed, there is, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.
Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans; that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred
A whole stream of events issue from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it now Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.