This may seem obvious, but it is crucial when you come to set your goals. Set positive goals that are beneficial to yourself and your loved ones (and perhaps others), healthy, matched to your goals and beliefs, and based on positive outcomes (what you want, not what you don’t want). If you do that, then the payoffs will be positive. If your definition of success is negative, then your goals will be negative and therefore the pay-offs will be negative.
Success takes commitment, discipline, and perseverance. You’ve got to know the goal is worth it – to you.